Numbers and notes from 09/30, Cross-posted at labangel's corner
Life: My family visited and there was some drama between my parents and in-laws. As a result my parents are helping plan most of my wedding and are inundating me with random tidbits of information during our calls. I feel burnt out from wedding planning because I feel alone. My boyfriend is physically around but doesn't really help me actually finish things that we need to get done. He has a gigantic case of FOMO as well as suffering from depression, which is the worse combination of mental conditions ever. It's like he feels FOMO if he doesn't socialize and feels depressed at how everyone is doing well if he does socialize haha. So I let him spend time on exercising, developing a singing hobby, socializing with friends over the phone and in person, start interview prep because he hates his job, etc. Basically he does everything a normal fiance would do except take an initiative to plan his own wedding.
I feel blocked waiting for consensus on things like gift policies, because he constantly opposes any of my decisions on anything while putting off seriously thinking about and having us come to an agreement about that decision. We desperately need to polish off a wedding website and honestly it's mostly done. But I feel resentful of him. So I'm just going to unblock myself by calling up my friends and letting them know that they should save the date of our wedding. This will liven up my friendships and make me less resentful at the same time.
Health & wellness: I have a sweet health care plan at my new job that offers an HSA. I need to set this up properly and do more research on things like how to submit claims.
Financial: I have a new job with a sweet raise and I got a sign on bonus when I joined. I need to adjust my 401k contributions soon to make sure I max out my contribution for the year without over-contributing. I also need to pay my parents back for wedding expenses.
Career: I'm a month into a new job and it's truly overwhelming. I'm basically onboarded and need to stay on top of my tasks. I also told my manager that I moved in with my boyfriend and that I'm getting married in January. I hope he can work with me for the flexibility I'm going to need. But at the same time I hope my boyfriend respects the boundaries that I am trying to draw between my work and my life to keep my wedding from totally overwhelming my career. I want to do well in this job more than I care about having a grand and showy wedding. |